Dysfunctional Realities




Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!


 

More on Dysfunctional Realities

 

This page will soon include a new feature as a Revelation/Instruction (depending upon your point of view) on Dysfunctional 'Norms' and how to defend and protect them against those who would question them or want to change anything.  Will this stop all that whining and complaining by those who find this traditional dysfunctional relating 'odd' and unhealthy? We'll see. Let's hope so.

 

It will be posted here under the title
How to Preserve Dysfunctional Norms + subtitles
 for easy future reference.
 



What to Do with Any Reality You Don't Like
 

Follow the dysfunctional tradition and give it the old one eighty. Flip it around and call it the perception/reaction problem of the one who sees it too clearly, making you feel uncomfortable about it. Rest assured that most people will be willing to go along with that.

 

“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

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For My Friends Who Can
t be Heard Either
Bio Psychiatrists, and all who act just like them, are not “pretending” to be stupid. They are pretending to be all knowing. Knowing this will make a big difference to your understanding about what is going on in them.




Splitting Essential to Scapegoating 06/30/2010

As Well as to Psychiatric Diagnostics Related to Perception/Reaction

By Patricia Lefave, intractably Monophrenic

 

“Splitting” is an extremely common part of dysfunctional thinking/behaviour employed by individuals and  groups engaged in scapegoating and the defence of the dysfunctional status quo. It is also used by psychiatrists to maintain their own belief system used to control the identified patient.

Basically it works by splitting reality itself into two distinct versions of it and then projecting the split onto the target who is being defined as “'crazy” (or weird or unfriendly etc.) and who is said to be 'unaware' of what is going on around him/her (another projection of the splitter) and therefore it is all right to talk about him/her right in his/her presence as if s/he was not really there. It is used to objectify the targeted human being. Once that is done the group can give itself permission to behave towards the target anyway they like since the target is no longer as 'real' a human being as the group doing the projecting of their own traits.

The ongoing experience of it on the receiving end is to be talked about in the third person in one's presence by those who simultaneously deny they do that. Instead, the perception of it is 'diagnosed' as a 'symptom' of the scapegoat rather than a simple statement of truth. Everything said after that has been accomplished as setting the premise of 'diagnosis' is then flipped around one hundred and eighty degrees and pathologized in the  complainant, while simultaneously denied as the group behaviour. It is basically a bait and switch con which goes unrecognized by all involved and is often begun by one or two people but with a group getting caught up in the drama. Then the whole group starts to fabricate a complex new 'reality' often while the 'subject' is forbidden to speak for him/herself or to even complain about the group behaviour which is consistently denied to even exist. Instead, in keeping  with the  ongoing effects of the 'switch,' the complaint  about it is said to be the target's 'fabrication'.

The effect on the targeted individual of course is to be bombarded with non stop contradiction, multiple versions of 'reality', open hostility by some, threats  of 'treatment' for his/her alleged 'perception/reaction' problems, group pressure  and an enforced psychological isolation and silencing.

Though mental illness professionals actually know that this kind of unrelenting stress and chaos can CAUSE a psychotic breakdown, they do NOT recognize it when it is actually happening, and especially not when they are participating in it themselves. That is very good proof of how common this is and how powerful the group phenomenon of splitting and projecting as a defence is as well.

The participants tend to remain deaf and blind to themselves no matter WHAT the target says to them. In fact, generally the more the target tries to get them to listen to reason, the worse it gets. It is a totally surreal experience.

 

The dysfunctional group needs to end this practice and integrate the full understanding of it into their awareness. Those of you who really want to help the targeted sick one, the one you have 'helped' to make sick, need to accept some help yourselves in order to wake up to the horrifying reality of your own making. Stay tuned for enough pedantic detail to get you there. It seems that the only way the psychiatrized are going to get any real help is if we help ourselves and each other by jolting the 'normal' out of their ongoing delusional self serving dysfunctional trance.

 

Let's just get you started here with this one. I don't call the police on you because I am a childish moron who is “going to call the police to complain that people are talking about me.” (delivered with a mocking, petulant tone when discussed in my presence)

 

I call the police to tell them from WHERE I am getting my information about what has been done to me, and who planned it; information which is then DENIED and suppressed by people like you who are mocking me for doing it, who will then no doubt deny the mocking as well, and who fail to see the destructive results of that. What you are denying doing is then denied to me, by the SAME people who started it all in the first place, and redefined as MY paranoid delusions and hallucinated conversations. This denial that you have done anything, or that you know anything, about what I am complaining of, is what earned me my psychiatric label since it is generally believed that reality IS defined by group consensus and 'authority.' You see in the wonderful fantasy world of psychiatry we can never define the group as 'crazy' only the individual who complains about the group behaviour. This is not two DIFFERENT realities. It is the SAME reality being defined in two different ways and that is what 'splitting' is really all about: scapegoating by blaming the victim for his/her perception problems so that NO ONE ELSE can be blamed or forced to see any truth they do not like, especially about themselves.

 

It is a very simple psychological mechanism, very common in dysfunctional groups, and it is also a very destructive one. You must stop this group thinking and behaviour. The end result of it is frequently death; of the victims and/or the abusers. You must stop perceiving the abuse of individuals as 'entertainment' and you must stop deluding yourselves that it is all right to behave this way as long as the targets don't know they are targets. We KNOW, and we have said so. Wake the hell up to the reality of your own lack of awareness and stop projecting all your shit onto us. The trip 'through the looking glass' isn't some place 'we' go. It is someplace we already ARE. The Mad Hatters are all around us, oblivious to both yourselves and to us as we really ARE. The truth is right under your own noses like “something rotten in Denmark.” Can't you smell the stench? Dig it out before it decomposes completely and disappears.

 

 

 

 
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'Extrospection' as Avoidance of Reality

 

The dysfunctional masses who see their point of view as ‘normal’ love to focus on extrospection as the main means of making themselves feel better. Their conversations are peppered with disdain for ‘hims’ and ‘hers’, ‘hes’ and ‘shes’ and the avoidance of the dreaded “I” word.

Perhaps this has something to do with the much loved dysfunctional belief,
 “there is no “I” in “team.” 

Dysfunctional enmeshment IS a group relationship.

 

On Scapegoating

 

Dysfunctional groups of all types employ scapegoating as a means of blowing off suppressed emotions. Socially sanctioned targets are selected and used by a usually non verbal, but sometimes verbal, agreement.  This is a very effective method for releasing emotional pressure, for the whole group especially since the reason for it is denied. Better still is the tautology created which keeps it all going when the scapegoating itself is denied to exist and claimed by the group to be a perception/reaction problem the scapegoat is having which justifies the treatment of the group.

Nothing keeps a dysfunctional system going like keeping it closed to external interference or examination. The scapegoat can then be 'fixed' for complaining about his/her artificially constructed and imposed social position which has now been denied to even exist. Fixing the complainer for complaining is now socially sanctioned as well.

All escape routes are then successfully blocked.

 

Speculation

 

What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?

 

 

 

Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?

 

YOUR GATEWAY TO

THE SCIENTIFIC STUDY OF GANGING UP
"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois

On People who Think They are Jesus

By Patricia Lefave, Monophrenic

 

One of the things Jesus said when talking about the failure to understand was this:

 

a.  “My words do no work in you.”

 

Another was, b. “There is a gulf between us I cannot cross.”

 

And,
c.  “What is this generation like? Like children calling to each other across the town square, “we played a song for you but you wouldn't sing!

Also that one said,
d.  "My words require no interpretation from anyone."
and also

e. When he asked questions, the authorities of his day did not want to answer (from where does YOUR authority come?) He responded, to their silence with, “well then, neither will I tell you.” (Where his ‘authority’ to speak came from)

Also said by Jesus who thought he was Jesus,
f.  ‘For having ears to hear, they hear not.’
 

g.   “Ye are as sleep walkers...”

 

 

The people of his day could not make any sense of what he was saying you see. They thought he was crazy or possessed by demons. If he was here today, I don't doubt that an ACT team would show up at the carpentry shop after the neighbours began talking about how 'weird' he was and if he then stated that his neighbours had started treating him strangely and were talking about him behind his back, or even right in front of him, like he wasn't there, the police would be picking him up and taking him for a nice visit to 'the quiet room.' There the normal people would not have to be upset by having a whack job sitting with them in the emergency department, loudly proclaiming he was not really ill.

Once that 'intervention' was under way, it really would not matter what he said as none of it would make sense to those who have already made their own kind of 'sense' of him and the situation before he was ever brought there. The 'gulf between them' then, and after that, would just grow to universal proportions. Of course Jesus would already have known that as that sort of thing was exactly what he was talking about.

The irony of this of course is that many of the normal people go to the churches dedicated to his way of thinking and worship this one as the Son of God, but I think if he was actually here, just being, right now, who he was then, they would be the first  ones calling the psychiatric hospital for help. Then they would go back to their places of worship together and talk out loud to an invisible being they have never seen but they just "know" is there, despite any 'real' evidence to the contrary. They would ask that One to please help Jesus get well; Jesus who would by then be talking out loud in the 'intensive care' unit, to the same invisible being and maybe even thinking that God is talking to him. Of course that's the problem isn't it? You can talk to an invisible being, but if you believe the invisible being talks to YOU, then you're crazy. It is also about WHERE you are, when you are talking to the invisible One. Can you see the tautology in that? We who get trapped within it do and we often even SAY so; but of course, you 'normal' people don't know what it means and so to defend your ignorance and the status quo you must have it mean NOTHING.

There is one very important point here that I think is lost on most people.

Why do the normal people, as they define themselves, base their faith on the teachings of someone that most of them would have locked up as obviously mad today? He was even called mad and possessed then. What makes you think you are so different now, from the people back then?  Don't make the mistake of thinking that I am trying to convince you that Jesus was just crazy. It is quite the opposite. I am trying to show you that what you CALL crazy has something to do with context and also trying to show you that your consensus realities as more about closing ranks to defend the pack (the groupthink) than they are about really identifying reality in all its complexity.

 

One of the common things dysfunctional people do as part of the defence of the dysfunction is to make an automatic assumption that if THEY can't “make sense”' of something the “unusual” other is saying, it can ONLY mean that what they don't understand cannot have any sense in it and/or the 'other' person does not make sense.

It is not routinely assumed that the problem is something lacking in either the amount, or type, of information, or that outright lies are being told by some, or that the senselessness may be in the dysfunctional group members. 

 

Here is how I, who have been psychiatrized by you 'modern' people today, might put it differently to how Jesus said it back then. Let me now modernize this for you and 'interpret' it in terms of the current language, psychiatrese:

 

a.  “No matter what I say, or how I say it, nothing penetrates your thick skulls.”

 

“Though we are using the same words we are not speaking the same language.

 

b. “You are playing a tune for me and are getting all righteously indignant, contemptuous and dissing me in public because I won’t dance to it.”

c. "I am speaking English (to English speaking people) and I do not need an interpreter either, or someone to speak FOR me as if I were an idiot, or to look for bloody 'hidden meaning' where there is none." (which according to you who are looking for it means you need an anti-psychotic!)

 

d.  I cannot come over to your side of reality (the gulf between us) as your reality is NOT reality at all. It is a fantasy world you have created for yourselves and which you want to project onto me and force me, if necessary, to accept it so that the dysfunctional 'normal' will not have to see the truth about themselves.

 

Jesus death represented killing the truth and burying it.


e.  If you people who are mocking me and ridiculing me for ‘thinking’ I understand more about my own life experience than you do intend to keep on keeping your silence, to save your own butts at my expense, then I will keep my silence towards you too, especially since you told me I must do so. So if you are waiting for me to talk about it to you, you are going to be waiting until hell freezes over.  Now be sure to share that and remember to laugh with your usual amusement and then DENY it.

f. 
Even though your ears are working you are psychologically deaf to what I am saying to you which is perfectly obvious. I am not the one who does not understand. YOU are.   


g. You are walking around hypnotized by your dysfunctional programming.  You are in a trance state you bloody idiots, and the biggest hypnotic suggestion keeping you in that trance is the hypnotic suggestion that we who know that, are said to be the ones who are crazy and not really conscious!”

The next time you are listening to crazy people, especially those under such great distress that they are having their minds broken down and are speaking in this symbolism, like in a waking nightmare, try really listening to it, conceptually speaking. Try assuming that the 'crazy' people who are 'not like you' are saying all the same kinds of things for a legitimate REASON, despite the packaging in which it is being delivered, and that is has nothing at all to do with faulty brain chemistry.

 

 

Reality cannot actually be defined by group consensus. That is an illusion and has much to do with making people crazy, especially those people who are, for one 'reason' or another, seen as “outside” the group “norm.”

 

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