Dysfunctional Realities




Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!


 

More on Dysfunctional Realities

 

This page will soon include a new feature as a Revelation/Instruction (depending upon your point of view) on Dysfunctional 'Norms' and how to defend and protect them against those who would question them or want to change anything.  Will this stop all that whining and complaining by those who find this traditional dysfunctional relating 'odd' and unhealthy? We'll see. Let's hope so.

 

It will be posted here under the title
How to Preserve Dysfunctional Norms + subtitles
 for easy future reference.
 



What to Do with Any Reality You Don't Like
 

Follow the dysfunctional tradition and give it the old one eighty. Flip it around and call it the perception/reaction problem of the one who sees it too clearly, making you feel uncomfortable about it. Rest assured that most people will be willing to go along with that.

 

“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

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Bio Psychiatrists, and all who act just like them, are not “pretending” to be stupid. They are pretending to be all knowing. Knowing this will make a big difference to your understanding about what is going on in them.




On People who Think They are Jesus 09/08/2010
By Patricia Lefave, Monophrenic  One of the things Jesus said when talking about the failure to understand was this:  a.  “My words do no work in you.”   Another was, b. “There is a gulf between us I cannot cross.”  And, c.  “What is this generation like? Like children calling to each other across the town square, ... More>
 
"Hidden Meaning" 07/27/2010
This will allow all of you psychiatrists and other sane people to decipher the ‘mad’ code in which we who tell you our truth are speaking. This is the hardest thing to get anyone to see and hear because it is the simplest and most obvious. Are you ready? Concentrate hard now.   You are a mob engaged in endless, ... More>
 
Tunneling UP the Rabbit Hole: Escape from Wonderland 07/08/2010
By Patricia Lefave, Labelled, D.D.(P) "You are like sleepwalkers" Jesus ben Joseph I wrote "Blame Versus Responsibility" because they have come to be regarded as antonyms rather than the synonyms they actually are. I consider this one to be the dysfunctional abstract platitude of the decade: "It's not about blame, it's about ... More>
 
Splitting Essential to Scapegoating 06/30/2010
As Well as to Psychiatric Diagnostics Related to Perception/Reaction By Patricia Lefave, intractably Monophrenic   “Splitting” is an extremely common part of dysfunctional thinking/behaviour employed by individuals and  groups engaged in scapegoating and the defence of the dysfunctional status quo. It is also used by ... More>
 
Dysfunctional Norms: 06/23/2010
The Maze of Rules Necessary for the Smooth Operation of the Dysfunctional Group By Patricia Lefave, Labeled, D.D. (P)       If you want to be an accepted member of a highly dysfunctional group, while maintaining a façade of normality, there is a list of rules which you would be wise to understand and follow in ... More>
 



'Extrospection' as Avoidance of Reality

 

The dysfunctional masses who see their point of view as ‘normal’ love to focus on extrospection as the main means of making themselves feel better. Their conversations are peppered with disdain for ‘hims’ and ‘hers’, ‘hes’ and ‘shes’ and the avoidance of the dreaded “I” word.

Perhaps this has something to do with the much loved dysfunctional belief,
 “there is no “I” in “team.” 

Dysfunctional enmeshment IS a group relationship.

 

On Scapegoating

 

Dysfunctional groups of all types employ scapegoating as a means of blowing off suppressed emotions. Socially sanctioned targets are selected and used by a usually non verbal, but sometimes verbal, agreement.  This is a very effective method for releasing emotional pressure, for the whole group especially since the reason for it is denied. Better still is the tautology created which keeps it all going when the scapegoating itself is denied to exist and claimed by the group to be a perception/reaction problem the scapegoat is having which justifies the treatment of the group.

Nothing keeps a dysfunctional system going like keeping it closed to external interference or examination. The scapegoat can then be 'fixed' for complaining about his/her artificially constructed and imposed social position which has now been denied to even exist. Fixing the complainer for complaining is now socially sanctioned as well.

All escape routes are then successfully blocked.

 

Speculation

 

What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?

 

 

 

Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?

 

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THE SCIENTIFIC STUDY OF GANGING UP
"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois

The War on War
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US Pastor Defiant Over Koran Burning Plans

8:25pm UK, Wednesday September 08, 2010

Adam Arnold, Sky News Online

A US clergyman is refusing to back down over plans to burn copies of the Koran despite international condemnation, including from the UN chief and Tony Blair. 

Pastor Terry Jones says he plans to go ahead with the Koran book burning

Pastor Terry Jones, who leads a small Florida church, insisted he would stage "International Burn-a-Koran Day" on Saturday September 11, despite receiving more than 100 death threats.

The act is timed to coincide with the ninth anniversary of the terror attacks on the US in 2001.

UN Secretary General Ban Ki-Moon has said he was "deeply disturbed" by the plans to burn copies of the Islamic holy book, which Muslims believe should be treated with the utmost respect.

And former prime minister Mr Blair added his voice to those who have are urging Pastor Jones to call off his protest.

Others against the plan include White House, the Vatican, the commander of international forces in Afghanistan General David Petraeus and film star Angelina Jolie.

The pastor's supporters have been mailing copies of the book to put on the bonfire at his Dove World Outreach Centre in Gainsville.

Explaining his plan, Mr Jones said: "Instead of us backing down, maybe it's time to stand up. Maybe it's time to send a message to radical Islam[1] that we will not tolerate their behaviour."



[1] Three things; the ‘message’ is wrong, it is not restricted to radicals and the pastor is behaving in the same way as all radicals. PL

On Terry Jones, “Righteousness” and the Burning of the Koran 
By Patricia Lefave

How do we deal with such things?

How do we address this problem, and problems just like it, without becoming just the same as what we claim we hate? We must react to it, yet we must NOT react in ways that reinforce the problem and keep it going. So how do we end this kind of hate filled contest between people? 

People, and particularly people, who represent governments, must say much more than “doing this may endanger our troops.” That statement makes it sound like the only concern is the backlash to 'us' without acknowledging the inciting to hatred directed towards 'them.' This is endangering a whole lot of people everywhere, and not just those directly involved. This kind of perverted thinking is a fundamental danger to all human life. It is the essential stuff that wars are made of so this must be dealt with on a collective HUMAN level of equals.

Someone on the news, as usual, came up with the idea of the 'right to free speech' as a reason for non interference. I also believe in the right to free speech BUT burning the Koran, like setting fire to police cars and destroying other people’s property at riots, is NOT 'free speech.' It is an action taken beyond the right to free speech.  I don't see this action as any more, or less, reprehensible than that of burning the American flag while shouting 'death to America, or death to the West!” In fact, this kind of groupthink and behaviour is pretty much the SAME in my way of seeing it, so maybe we who want peace should be counteracting it ALL in the same way if we want to stop the effects of it on everyone else. 

In Canada, A number of years ago there was an incident regarding an old, old contest.  Once again, the Nazi agenda raised its hideous ‘superior’ head and exercised its right to free speech by slamming the Jewish People. How 'unusual' right?  Well, what was somewhat unusual was the response from a representative of the Jewish community. I cannot remember who it was exactly, but it may have been the president of the Canadian Jewish Congress. (Or another group; sorry for the lack of a specific identity here. I did not know I was going to use it years later.) 

In any case the two way commentary went very close to something like this: 

Neo Nazi: (responding to the objections to the usual rhetoric by the Jewish Community) ”They are just angry because they don't like what we have to say about them. But I am telling you we have the right to free speech in this country and we can say whatever we like!” 

Jewish Representative: “That's right. We DON'T like what you have to say about us and you’re also right that you DO have the right to free speech in this country... and SO DO WE.”

 First thing we need to point out, over and over again, is the difference between 'speech' and acting out. (Which is physical action) 

If you wouldn’t want a Bible Burning then you don't hold a Koran burning. Mutual hatred accompanied by contemptuous acts does not cause peace as an outcome. Peaceful acts cause peaceful outcomes. Mutual respect with personal boundaries intact causes peaceful outcomes. People who incite hatred in others exist in every religious group, every ethnic group and every government in power. This is what we have IN COMMON as human beings everywhere and this is what we need to focus on in order to dis-empower hatred and abuse. To dis-empower this, ALL peace seeking human beings must work together to universally condemn this kind of mindless hatred. There is nothing 'Godly' about this thinking and behaviour, from any legitimate religion’s point of view. It is just the opposite and we must ALL say so. ALL of us. Right out loud.  

This idiotic event is bound to happen and will include some people who support and enable it as this sort of thing ALWAYS attracts the haters of the world and offers them an excuse to act out as part of a mindless mob. No doubt they too will claim to have God on their ‘side.’ The only difference we can make is in HOW we react to it.  

Trying to appeal to reason will not work. It is not about 'reason' it is emotional, and irrational. It is not about God or religion either. That is just the disguise. None of the religions would condone this.  

I would suggest that we all fight it with really up close observation, right there on the spot, and a collective commentary in the style of the 'contest' as repeated above between the neo Nazi and the Jewish spokesperson. Representatives of all the faiths, especially other Christians since this jerk claims he represents Christian belief, and others from no faith at all, must join together and speak out publicly against ALL 'burnings' of everything; Bibles, Korans, flags, places of worship, cars, buildings  etc. and jointly condemn this sort of thing as hate mongering from ALL points of view. NO 'contest.' 

Go to the event together and talk about the idiocy of it and speak into microphones when you do it; calmly, with no show of anxiety or self righteous indignation. Instead, view it as the mindless stupidity that it IS and exercise YOUR right to free speech by condemning this with words. Then perhaps you could join hands, and form a protective circle of all faith perspectives, while the jackasses burn books like the naughty spiritual children that they are. 

Bear in mind that this is really a symbolic act, designed to get an angry reaction and that the Book is made of paper, and not flesh. It is really about the Spirit of Life and death, War and Peace. The Spirit of true Islam and true Christianity is not gone because some of the Holy Books are burned. Give a collective reaction to it that the hate mongers do not want or expect.

 A suggestion of a means of dealing with this might be like this below 

Softly chant together, but as one voice: 

Universal Spirit of All People (One Spirit of Being with Many Names)

 Please bring to this place today the death of the spirit of Division, War and Hatred and replace it with Collective Understanding.

On this particular day we pray together for the rescue of the spirit of those who would tear humanity apart while falsely claiming that they do so at the direction of the Holy ONE. 

Or simpler may be just to chant: “Death to Division, Death to War, Death to Hatred.  

We must all understand that what we do to one of us, we do to all of us, for in reality, we are all very much connected. Use these mindless events to proclaim that, while the cameras are rolling. 

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